Freedom – our handsome kitty who likes to wander
The question of how to, when to, or even if we should – let go – will naturally come up in connection with a missing pet, a dying pet, and after the death of a pet. The following is a message from my angel cat Kia, as I was talking to her about my cat, Freedom. He is a very sensitive cat with personal issues and he is a compulsive wanderer. In order to help him and also to handle his disappearances I have been doing shamanic journeys and have had several communications with Freedom himself, various helping spirits, and my cat Kia who died over one year ago. The following is what Kia said about letting go:
Kia:
“First we need to define what we mean by letting go.
In the case of Freedom, you feel that letting go means to deny him the possibility of coming home; to show him you don’t care about him and don’t want him home. You feel that by letting him go you are letting him down and abandoning him, giving up.
As I said in a previous conversation: “If you allow yourself to be in the present – and let go – you will see that I am not gone and that you can never lose me”.
Letting Freedom go means that you don’t fight his or the universe’s decisions. It involves an internal surrendering to what is and accepting that everything cannot be controlled. It also means that an outcome that does not please you or does not fit in with your wishes, is nothing you need to take personally. Instead of judging everything as right/wrong, good/bad, learn to let things be as they are, go with the flow.
We are holding a place of peace and love in our hearts and home for our loving cat Freedom.
Letting go in connection with Freedom means that your emotions will not be in the way and you will actually much easier be able to hold the peace needed to invite him home again. You will also be able to enjoy and live your own life instead of being in a constant state of worry and self-blame. Can you allow yourself to say “All is well”?
When a pet is dying or after the death of a pet, you resist or maybe even refuse to let go of your companion for many of the same reasons. You feel that by letting go, you dishonor your pet and cut off your possibility of any future reconnection. Letting a beloved pet go also feels as if you are cutting off part of yourself, because your pet was such an integral part of your life. You cannot imagine life without your pet. You feel you abandon your pet by letting him or her go.
But in reality you honor and support your pet by letting them go, because you acknowledge that they are on their own soul’s path.
If you let go, you do not lose the love, the connection or the memories, instead your bond might even get stronger because your connection is not ‘tainted’ with fear and despair. Your connection with your pet after letting them go will be one of peace, freedom and pure love. You realize that there’s nothing to fear as underneath it all we are all one, we are all connected. Separation is an illusion created by fear.
Another thing, letting go does not free you of actions and responsibilities; letting go is simply an inner surrendering that will bring peace to you and whoever else is involved.
Practice letting go in your daily life. Notice when you hang on or cling to emotions, things, people, or animals, where feelings of fear or conflict prevent you from experiencing peace. Simply by accepting what is and allowing yourself to be in the present moment – and allowing the present moment to be what it is – you will let go and achieve peace of mind. It is a process, so why not start now?”.
M: Thank you, Kia.
And on to you, dear reader . . .
Take a few minutes and get calm inside. Place yourself in quiet surroundings or out in nature, or try a meditation or listening to peaceful music. Then turn your attention inward, and notice if there are any areas in your life where a hanging on is causing friction in your life and where you need to let go. As you do this, remember Kia’s words from above about letting go and internal surrender.
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Thank you for posting that article, it is very helpful!
My lovely pet cat Amber past away from cancer that spread though-out her body and there was nothing that we could do to help her. After the vet came back to our exam room with Amber, after viewing the X-rays he offered to do surgery but said that she might not make it and he might not be successful. I could see how weak she was and decided to have her put down to end her suffering, I think she would have gone naturally in about 1 hour. I was give private time to say goodbye, I petted her as she lay on the table and cried, I said how sorry I was that we couldn’t help her, them all of a sudden she stood up and looked at us and fear and concern was in her eyes, she jumped onto my shoulder and snuggled in, and I held her close with both arms and cried and told her how much I lover her and how wonderful she was. I said my goodbyes, I have no Idea how much time past.
She have fluid build up around her lungs and in her stomach, the cancer started in her intestinal area and spread to the stomach and lungs. I didn’t want to put her though cancer treatment or the surgery in her weak state, I think that would have been cruel and selfish on my part, she would have felt awful during treatment and recovery and would have to be strapped down and then all the trips back and forth – she would have been terrified during the ordeal which could have lasted months and then there is then expense. She was worth more than anything to me. I really loved her, I had her as a pet for 10.5 years. When I first got her she was a stray kitten, very cute, very hungery and very lonely, she turned into the best pet I ever had.
Goodbye Amber! I love you!!
I am so sorry for the loss of your beloved cat Amber. My heart goes out to you in your time of grief. It was fortunate that you had a chance to say goodbye to Amber; I am sure it meant a lot to her. I’m glad you found the article helpful. Peace and blessings, Marianne