After losing a beloved pet, guilt is one of the emotions that can be particularly difficult to deal with. It often comes in waves, and even when you feel you have let go and forgiven yourself for the death of your pet, then suddenly something happens that brings up the feelings of guilt and regret again.
I know that all too well, for although I have been consciously working through the grief and guilt after the loss of my beloved cat Kia, then occasionally something reminds me of the way she died tragically and all alone in an animal hospital, and the pain comes back for a while.
Kia’s words of wisdom on letting go of guilt
It was during one of those moments that I decided to connect with the spirit of Kia, to ask her for insight and wisdom. The following is what happened:
As I connect with Kia, I find myself standing on a beach an early morning. I hear the waves gently lapping on the shore, the air is fresh and it is only just beginning to get light. I can still see some stars. Especially one star in front of me a little above the water in the horizon is bigger and clearer then the rest. It blinks or pulsates a couple of times and ‘flashes out’ towards me, and instantly, Kia is sitting next to me on my right side.
I greet her warmly, and Kia looks at me with gentle loving eyes. She says calmly:
“Always return to the present. It is not in the past but in the present moment you will connect with me. That is the place to connect and rest without blame and judgment. That is the place to experience the love we shared – and always will share. And it is in the present moment you can access the fond memories without regret but instead with joy.
Memories are good, but when you go straight to the memories without anchoring in the present moment, you avoid and resist the present and live in pain, guilt and regret.
It is when you fully realize that you can access me and my love right here in the present that all guilt and regret fall away, and you can not only remember our time together with love and joy but also experience my presence in the now, for I am with you wherever you go.
Since we are one, we can still be together though we take different paths. There is no separation and we will be together again.
You experienced guilt so you could learn forgiveness, for when you walk the path of compassion, forgiveness is the key. And forgiveness includes others as well as yourself. Only when you can truly forgive can you embrace compassion. Surrendering to the present moment is the key to both.
Just keep returning to the now – and you will find me there.”
I give thanks to Kia for her wise words and say goodbye. It is my wish that her deep insight and words of wisdom will bring you comfort and inspiration in dealing with your own grief after the loss of your animal companion.
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Hi Marianne,
Im glad I came upon this page you wrote about your healing…….
Losing our Beautiful-sweet cat ” Angel ” at almost 17 had been quite tearful -painful GUILT and trying to make things better in my mind. Its been close to10 and a half months now ( mid Jan )and though got stronger over time – …..I feel it trying to grip me again in my mind , I will read over your material again , it seemed to make sense . Thanks for listening, sometimes letting it out here and there makes us feel not so alone.
Thankyou, Linda
Hello Marianne,
Thank you so much for sharing what your cat, Kia, wrote!!!! This is exaclty what Roco has told me too. We are One and We have been One since she came into my life six years ago! Now, she is in Heaven and I am so so blessed for her Love. Merci, Estelle
Thank you for sharing, Estelle. May your wonderful words be an inspiration to those who are struggling with the grief after losing their animal companion. Peace and blessings, Marianne